Posts in self care
Date Yourself
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source: Google 

There was never a period in my life I thought I would be alone for a long period of time. For the most part I have always had someone  to do things with. You know go to the mall with my girlfriends. Out to dinner with “Bae” or if it was Real good Heyyyyy ( channeling my inner B in the Yonce’ video ) yo girl got it lol , but that is a different post for another day .

It was not until I started to grow in a new season that it was vital to date myself again. I am talking about the works , get dolled up , putting  on my favorite perfume and keeping  my vase full of my favorite followers.  

The truth is ... I can’t expect anyone else to Invest in me if I can not do it for myself . This process was hard . I had to confront the things that were painful to face . I had to unlearn unhealthy behaviors by going to threaphy ,and started to surrounding myself with people who were not onlying thriving but living too . Most importantly I had to decide that who I wanted to become was worth it. This is how it looks ....

When you are NOT dating yourself your  

  • Passing up on opportunities because no one is free to join you  
  • Your happiness is contingent on someone else presence instead of yours   
  • Your growth is complacent  

When you ARE dating Yourself  

  • You value your time and peace  
  • You learn more about yourself each day  
  • Your worth is priceless ( yes you set the Tone ) 
  • you to step outside of your comfort zone  

What I have learned and continue to learn is that YOU can rewrite your story , what you have been through is not your final destination. Dating myself has allowed me to evolved beyond any expectation and it is necessary. Before you can expect to be wanted and valued in anyone else’s space you have to learn how to loving being in your own .

boldly  

Shee

My Lifestyle Journey
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This right here is one of the hardest journeys I have been on . Why does it seems so easy to put the weight on with no hesitation, but the moment you decide to get your whole life you have to become a whole new person to get your desired results. If you are thinking this I am right there with you. Even-though this is by one of my hardest journeys it is also one of my most rewarding.what I have learned is the things you really want takes a lot of hard work and dedication. I want to share some tips on my favorite workout gear and workouts that have been keeping me going on this journey..

 

One major thing I have learned going through this journey is when you look good you feel good . It is also very important that I have clothes that I can move around freely. Some of my favorites are .  •Workout Pants : I love these #marledsplicedactivelegging I picked these up from Lane Bryant. They feel amazing  . What I also love is the way they fit my body.  •Shirt and Bra: Now it is very important that I have proper support. I picked up the #Mazesportsbra this is by far one of my favorite the support is amazing. For my shirt I am rocking #SheeIsapparel which will be launching this month. I must wear shirts that I can move freely so I can get the best from my workout .       •Apple Watch and Shoes :I love my #AppleWatch I love to be to keep track of my progress and see how I do every workout    Shoes : it is mandatory that I feel comfortable and have good shoes that support my movements 

One major thing I have learned going through this journey is when you look good you feel good . It is also very important that I have clothes that I can move around freely. Some of my favorites are .

•Workout Pants : I love these #marledsplicedactivelegging I picked these up from Lane Bryant. They feel amazing  . What I also love is the way they fit my body.

•Shirt and Bra: Now it is very important that I have proper support. I picked up the #Mazesportsbra this is by far one of my favorite the support is amazing. For my shirt I am rocking #SheeIsapparel which will be launching this month. I must wear shirts that I can move freely so I can get the best from my workout .  

 

•Apple Watch and Shoes :I love my #AppleWatch I love to be to keep track of my progress and see how I do every workout  

Shoes : it is mandatory that I feel comfortable and have good shoes that support my movements 

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Now what I also have learned that looking good is an extra benefit. The real work comes with how you eat and work out . I am still a work in progress when it comes to eating good food all the time . When we being so active all the time I have to plan for my trips better . When it comes to working out I love going to the gym and working at home with YouTube videos and work out apps. I also like working outdoors  

 

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What I would say is Trust and enjoy the process .What you put in is what you will receive. And make sure your journey is 100% for you . If you are doing it for any other reason you are going to end up right where you started  .

 

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HITTING RESET
souce:Google

souce:Google

I am always doing something. I never have time for me to truly unwind. I kept finding myself having just enough time to take care of everyone and when it came to myself I was either to tired or even worse gave myself sloppy seconds. I made just enough time to say my prays and thank God for everything I have in my life. Either I was rushing to drop my daughter off at daycare, so I can get to work on time or putting off something I really wanted to do because I was to tired from staying up late doing homework.  I was burnt out to the point that I was time doing nothing from time to time. My self-love tank was on E and I could not make it to the nearest gas station.

My days start at 5 am and end around 11 pm. I would work 10 to 11 hours, go to the gym on a good day (my goal was 5 days, but I would only make it 3 days). Cook dinner, homework time with my daughter and then homework time for myself just to wake up and do it all over again. I would feel bad if I did not get to spend good quality time with daughter and it would eat at me. If you are there now, then you truly understand. Something had to change I was tired of having some low days.

That’s when I decided to devote the next 100 days to myself. Now I am very goal orientated but to make this work I had to get supper real with myself. So here is what I did.

30 Minute Workouts 

Since It was already a habit going to the gym there was no issue working out. My challenge was sticking to what I had plan. So, for the next 100 days I must work out every day for 30 minutes. Even if it meant just having time to walk I am doing it. So, if I had an event I still must get in before or after. This helps me be accountable to my goals. This also help me put my health as a #1 priority. This was a promise to myself.

Saying No

Whew this was a hard one for me. I found myself taking on too many collaborations without first seeing if it truly serves the core values I believe. I love helping people and always want to show support. What I have learned is that I can show my support is other ways and I don’t have to run myself into the ground to show you I have here to support you. I now take the time to truly think about it and then give an answer. I also learned how to keep my power and not feel guilty because I could not meet someone else’s needs before I meet my own.

No tv during the Week

I am not a big tv person, but I love watching my shows online. But I had to be honest with myself and see  what else could I do that would be productive in that 30 to 45-minute window. Do not let you be behind and you’re playing catch up.  By doing this I found myself knocking more stuff out and saving my tv time  until Friday  worked for me  and I did feel bad if I wanted to binge for an episode or two.

Staying present

I have gotten a lot better with this I am still a work in progress. Because I am always thinking, planning and trying to take over the world by doing this helps me slow down. I am learning to be in the moment and enjoy it. I love multitasking, but I find I am always rushing to finish the next thing which is not fun all the time.

 

What I am learning so far on this journey is that the best thing you can do is start. Once you start everything just falls into place. Your reset can look different from mines and that is okay. if you are only able to focus on one thing do that and enjoy the journey.